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Cercare di essere un bravo genitore è un dovere piuttosto impegnativo, e non sempre ci si riesce; quantomeno non in tutte le situazioni.

Ho letto un sacco di libri di carattere pedagogico, dai più divulgativi (tipo “Fate la nanna”… e chi non l’ha letto!!??) a quelli un po’ più di nicchia (tipo quelli di Rudolf Steiner) e devo dire che, soprattutto i secondi, mi hanno dato nozioni e spunti fantastici. Anche le conoscenze più strettamente legate al coaching e allo sviluppo personale, che indago da oltre vent’anni, mi stanno aiutando molto.

Mi sono trovato, e mi trovo tutt’ora, a trasmettere ai bimbi atteggiamento e approcci non dogmatici che possono aiutare loro a vivere meglio sotto ogni profilo. Spero ovviamente che tutto ciò porti i risultati sperati.

Ma veniamo al tema del titolo.

A scuola di coaching da Michele.

Mio figlio Michele ha attualmente 4 anni e 1/2. Come molti altri bambini della sua età, vive momenti di sicurezza ed altri di timidezza. Questi ultimi sono quelli che noi genitori soffriamo di più e nei quali le persone (adulte) che lo incontrano e che cercano di accattivarsene le simpatie gli dicono frasi del tipo: “oh… ma sei un bambino timido…” e io dentro ribollo…

Da qualche settimana mi sono accorto che nelle situazioni in cui si sente inadeguato, timido, in difficoltà, non all’altezza, fa una determinata cosa. Questa cosa, dal mio punto di vista, è una trovata intelligentissima, anche perchè FUNZIONA! E’ una sorta di ristrutturazione mentale mista a un cambio di prospettiva e di sottomodalità percettive. Da quando l’ho notato la prima volta, ho iniziato ad osservarlo con più attenzione ed ho potuto vedere come e quando la mette in azione.

Ad esempio lo fa soprattutto con persone. Quando qualcuno lo mette in difficoltà o imbarazzo Miki applica la sua fantastica tecnica e, ripeto, funziona!

Prima intimorito, si nasconde dietro le mie gambe (piccino, ma quanto mi fa tenerezza???), dopo aver applicato la sua fantastica tecnica sorride ed esce dal suo “rifugio” con la sua solita aria baldanzosa.

E’ così furba che secondo me varrebbe la pena di trasmetterla e insegnarla anche ad altri bimbi.

Metaforicamente sarebbe fantastica anche per gli adulti, intendiamoci, ma per i bimbi secondo me “spacca davvero”!

Come? vuoi sapere di cosa si tratta? Ah… hai anche tu dei bimbi… e ogni tanto si nascondono dietro le tue gambe un po’ intimoriti?

Ok, ok… ecco LA FANTASTICA TECNICA DI MIKI schematizzata in soli 3 passi:

1. Portare due dita (pollice e indice) vicino ad un occhio mentre si chiude l’altro.

2. Guardare la persona (o l’oggetto) che crea il disagio attraverso le due dita

3. Allontanare le dita dall’occhio mantenendo però la dimensione/distanza dell’oggetto ed escalamare con soddisfazione…

TU SEI GRANDE COSì!

Non è geniale?

Provare per credere. Ciao!

Livio

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  • Lorena ha detto:

    Geniale!
    I bimbi hanno un sacco di risorse e abbiamo tanto da imparare!

    Quanto sono cresciuta da quando sono mamma… un compito complesso, ma guardato da un caleidoscopio …fantastico!!!!

    • Livio ha detto:

      Siiiii… un compito pazzesco e bellissimo. Per ogni età c’è qualcosa di meraviglioso che la contraddistingue. Una parte di me vorrebbe che non crescessero mai… così sono davvero stupendi!

  • Livio ha detto:

    Ho ricevuto un sacco di complimenti per la tecnica… ma io non centro niente… davvero. E’ tutta farina del suo sacco (farina integrale ovviamente :-)).

    I complimenti li rigiro direttamente al buon Miki…
    … PICCOLI COACH CRESCONO…
    😉

  • lisa :) ha detto:

    Un grande davvero tuo figlio!!

    sai..conosco un altro coach che sapeva riconoscere l’essere illuminato dei bambini… io direi buddità…lui diceva :
    Lasciate che i bambini vengano a me e non glielo impedite, perché a chi è come loro
    appartiene il regno di Dio!

    grazie per la condivisione di questa potente tecnica…

    un abbraccio
    Lisa

  • beppe ha detto:

    Ahahaha Livio, ho provato “da grande” è veramente mitica.
    Ehi, lo posso fare con i miei avversari ogni volta che andiamo in campo per una gara?

    Livio se funziona, Miki diventa un mito!!!

    Un abbraccio.

    Beppe Sammarco

  • Giuse ha detto:

    Mittico Miki!!!

    Mi sa ke la suggerirò a qualcuno 😉

  • khadija ha detto:

    abbiamo tutti da imparare dai bambini, ma il tuo e un fenomeno, chi sa da chi lo ha preso ?

  • Alle ha detto:

    Meravigliosa!!! La istituisco e la metto nel programma del prossimo PNL Practitioner 🙂
    Nel frattempo potresti chiedere a Miki il permesso per cortesia? Sii convincente!

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